Workplace Culture

Driving Home a Lesson on Race

By Stephen Paskoff

Dec. 16, 2014

I just had a great three-day football weekend in Atlanta. My cousin, Dan Rossman, came in from Pittsburgh, my hometown, and invited me to go to the Falcons-Steelers game with him and several of his friends. We had a memorable weekend, and I got an unexpected lesson.

After work on Friday, we met for a beer in the heart of Atlanta’s commercial district, Buckhead. Around 6:30 p.m., I was driving home thinking about what we’d do during his visit. I wasn’t paying as much attention to my driving as I should have.

Atlanta’s traffic rivals that of the busiest cities in the country, and add in a holiday shopping weekend and gridlock — not thoughts about the gridiron — should have been my focus.





From left: Dan Rossman, Ray Seals and Steve Paskoff



As I waited for a light to change, an Atlanta policeman pulled up, his lights flashing. I rolled down my window. I thought, “He must think I’m intoxicated.” For the record, I wasn’t, but the stop was during happy hour, so I could see how he’d be suspicious. I asked what I had done. He said, “You’re moving left and right; you need to get in the proper lane. Move over and don’t do it again.” Then he drove off.

I thought to myself, well I dodged a ticket, a fine, and lot of inconvenience —that would have really started the weekend off wrong. But the weekend went right. We hiked, had some great meals and visited the College Football Hall of Fame, a new Atlanta attraction.

My real lesson came Sunday.

My cousin and his friends organized a world-class tailgate, and he delivered on his promise that a former Steelers player would be there. Outside the Falcons’ stadium I got to meet and visit with Ray Seals, who played defense for several years in the 1990s. Seals is a member of a Super Bowl team, which to Pittsburgh fans anywhere will always make him special. That Sunday, Seals was in Atlanta to do charity work and visit family members.

In the mid-1990s, Seals' cousin, Jonny Gammage, a 31-year-old African-American male, died after a police confrontation. His death nearly 20 years ago sparked anger and controversy in Pittsburgh. It shares similarities with the complex issues regarding race and law enforcement now being widely considered and publicized around the nation.

Seals’ dad is a retired policeman. He spoke with great respect for the challenges, risks and perils that police officers face on a daily basis. In his view, there are many talented, skilled and professional police officers out there, but he noted that there are some, as in any job or profession, who are not.

Seals travels a fair amount by car. This year he has been stopped 15 times in various parts of the country while driving. Each time he’s been pulled over, Seals has had to show his license and car registration. Not once has he been ticketed or charged with an offense. This is not a 2014 fluke but more or less the usual annual total for him for at least the past 10 years.

I didn’t witness Seals’ prior incidents. I know that last Friday about 10 seconds after my police stop, I went on my way without a license check, a sobriety check or any check whatsoever. While I was grateful, I was not surprised. From my experience, I remember thinking my traffic stop would probably go OK. And it did.

All during the Falcons-Steelers game, I thought about what would have happened if I’d looked like Seals when I was stopped and what would’ve happened to Seals if he’d looked like me as he drove around the country all these years.

That’s one thing for us to think about when we read or watch the news and ponder issues of justice, law enforcement, identity and our own realities.

Stephen Paskoff is a former EEOC trial attorney and the president and CEO of Atlanta-based ELI, Inc.,which provides ethicsand compliance trainingthat helps many of the world's leading organizations build and maintain inclusive, legal, productive and ethical workplaces.

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